Leader and Follower Descriptions
The Tango Social Revolution has been debating What Is a Good Leader.
I particularly liked the following long descriptions (I do not know the origin)
Leaders - Men
1. Leading the woman. For the couple to dance in unison, their actions must agree. For this to happen, only one person must take the lead, and the other must follow. In tango, the man leads the women. He does so not by force, but by showing an intention of how he wants her to move from his torso that she in his embrace can feel. He then matches her response to complete the lead.
2. Plotting the dance. In tango, the man dances around the floor and the woman dances around the man. The woman may beautify the dance by her colorful footwork, but she cannot plot the dance and change the choreography. That responsibility lies in the man, who must make the dance interesting, diversified and well-arranged, so that it may bring the woman's feminine beauty into full play.
3. Supporting her. The man must be supportive to the woman. Although she is liable for keeping her own balance, in actual dancing she often needs his help, especially if she is a less experienced dancer. The man must be the pillar for her, supporting her with his body to help keeping her balanced and executing the movement. He must be as stable as a refrigerator. Any unsteadiness and unbalance on his part will shake her trust and confidence.
4. Timing her steps to the music. The man must lead the woman dance to the music. His musicality is the most important element of leading. He must not stick in the steps and forget about the music. He must not just pay attention to his own timing and forget about hers. Rather, he must focus on timing her steps to the music, because he dances for her.
5. Shining her. A gentleman makes the woman shine in his company. He leads her to dance in such a way that fully displays her feminine beauty. He makes her, rather than himself, the center of attention. He does not show off over her for self-glorification and leave her eclipsed.
6. Protecting her. A gentleman is very protective to the woman. He must prevent her from being bumped, kicked or stepped by others. He must comply with floorcraft rules and respect the line of dance, keep a distance from others, halt when necessary and not run into people, and he must not lead steps that may hurt her or others.
7. Pampering her. It is not manly to be rude and savage to a woman. A gentleman treats the woman with respect, admiration and attentiveness. He leads her carefully, patiently, tenderly and protectively. He makes her feel pampered in his arms and lets her fully enjoy dancing with him.
1. Leading the woman. For the couple to dance in unison, their actions must agree. For this to happen, only one person must take the lead, and the other must follow. In tango, the man leads the women. He does so not by force, but by showing an intention of how he wants her to move from his torso that she in his embrace can feel. He then matches her response to complete the lead.
2. Plotting the dance. In tango, the man dances around the floor and the woman dances around the man. The woman may beautify the dance by her colorful footwork, but she cannot plot the dance and change the choreography. That responsibility lies in the man, who must make the dance interesting, diversified and well-arranged, so that it may bring the woman's feminine beauty into full play.
3. Supporting her. The man must be supportive to the woman. Although she is liable for keeping her own balance, in actual dancing she often needs his help, especially if she is a less experienced dancer. The man must be the pillar for her, supporting her with his body to help keeping her balanced and executing the movement. He must be as stable as a refrigerator. Any unsteadiness and unbalance on his part will shake her trust and confidence.
4. Timing her steps to the music. The man must lead the woman dance to the music. His musicality is the most important element of leading. He must not stick in the steps and forget about the music. He must not just pay attention to his own timing and forget about hers. Rather, he must focus on timing her steps to the music, because he dances for her.
5. Shining her. A gentleman makes the woman shine in his company. He leads her to dance in such a way that fully displays her feminine beauty. He makes her, rather than himself, the center of attention. He does not show off over her for self-glorification and leave her eclipsed.
6. Protecting her. A gentleman is very protective to the woman. He must prevent her from being bumped, kicked or stepped by others. He must comply with floorcraft rules and respect the line of dance, keep a distance from others, halt when necessary and not run into people, and he must not lead steps that may hurt her or others.
7. Pampering her. It is not manly to be rude and savage to a woman. A gentleman treats the woman with respect, admiration and attentiveness. He leads her carefully, patiently, tenderly and protectively. He makes her feel pampered in his arms and lets her fully enjoy dancing with him.
Followers - Woman
1. Complete surrender. The woman must entrust herself to the man. She must let go her ego, relax her body, settle comfortably in his embrace, be obedient, and move in unison with him. By her surrender she dispels his misgiving and gives him permission to be her leader. Just like when a baby is born the young parents suddenly become grownups, she makes him a man by being a woman.
2. Following his lead. She must be calm and unhurried, wait for his signal to tell her how to move, and follow the lead one step at a time. She must not act on her own, initiate the step, or interfere with his lead. While being obedient, however, she must remain an active part of the dance. Following is not passively responding. It is a dynamic action that takes wit, ingenuity and creativeness.
3. Being light and agile. She must make herself light and easy for him to lead. She must not put too much weight on the man and cause a burden to him. She must keep her own balance and not grab him or hang on him for stability. She must be sensitive to his lead and ready to respond at all time. And, she must move dexterously.
4. Keeping her own beat. A good follower follows intuitively so she can concentrate on the music rather than the lead. The man does his part to lead her dance to the music, but he can only do so by estimating the beat. As a result he may not be one hundred percent accurate at all time. The woman must listen to the music and be responsible for micro-adjusting her steps to the beat.
5. Complementing the man. As his partner she must help him, bring out his strengths and compensate for his weaknesses. She excites him with her femininity. She dances in such a way that is light, inspiring and contagious. She supports him when he loses his balance, keeps the beat when he is off time, slows him down if he rushes, and warns him if he is to run into others.
6. Beautifying the dance. A woman is a natural beautician and decorator. The man leads the dance, but it is the woman who shines the dance with her flexible body, beautiful footwork and sparkling embellishments. A good follower, however, does not interfere with the lead. She remains in perfect unison with the man while adorning the dance.
7. Being a woman. The woman must not dance as a mechanical follower, but as a woman. She must make the man feel comfortable in her arms. She must willingly show her female softness, flexibility, grace and seductiveness. She understands that her womanhood, femininity and gentle softness are the reason why he enjoys dancing with her rather than with a man. By being a woman, she can bring out the best in him and be rewarded fully as a result.
1. Complete surrender. The woman must entrust herself to the man. She must let go her ego, relax her body, settle comfortably in his embrace, be obedient, and move in unison with him. By her surrender she dispels his misgiving and gives him permission to be her leader. Just like when a baby is born the young parents suddenly become grownups, she makes him a man by being a woman.
2. Following his lead. She must be calm and unhurried, wait for his signal to tell her how to move, and follow the lead one step at a time. She must not act on her own, initiate the step, or interfere with his lead. While being obedient, however, she must remain an active part of the dance. Following is not passively responding. It is a dynamic action that takes wit, ingenuity and creativeness.
3. Being light and agile. She must make herself light and easy for him to lead. She must not put too much weight on the man and cause a burden to him. She must keep her own balance and not grab him or hang on him for stability. She must be sensitive to his lead and ready to respond at all time. And, she must move dexterously.
4. Keeping her own beat. A good follower follows intuitively so she can concentrate on the music rather than the lead. The man does his part to lead her dance to the music, but he can only do so by estimating the beat. As a result he may not be one hundred percent accurate at all time. The woman must listen to the music and be responsible for micro-adjusting her steps to the beat.
5. Complementing the man. As his partner she must help him, bring out his strengths and compensate for his weaknesses. She excites him with her femininity. She dances in such a way that is light, inspiring and contagious. She supports him when he loses his balance, keeps the beat when he is off time, slows him down if he rushes, and warns him if he is to run into others.
6. Beautifying the dance. A woman is a natural beautician and decorator. The man leads the dance, but it is the woman who shines the dance with her flexible body, beautiful footwork and sparkling embellishments. A good follower, however, does not interfere with the lead. She remains in perfect unison with the man while adorning the dance.
7. Being a woman. The woman must not dance as a mechanical follower, but as a woman. She must make the man feel comfortable in her arms. She must willingly show her female softness, flexibility, grace and seductiveness. She understands that her womanhood, femininity and gentle softness are the reason why he enjoys dancing with her rather than with a man. By being a woman, she can bring out the best in him and be rewarded fully as a result.
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